Someone wrote me today saying in part, “Love is selfish it isn't possible for humans to truly LOVE. Sad but true.”

This was in part my response, ‘You don't really believe that do you?  You are only speaking from a place of hurt and disappointment right. It is our way of loving which is Selfish or Selfless.

Love simply is... yet is it complex in that love loves for lots of reasons; even the unexpected as it develops and evolves through stages of being Selfish and Selfless. Over time we come to understand this truth experientially, it seems to be.

Selfless love knows that there is enough love available for everyone and that the way to get more love is to give more; deep within it desires for everyone to feel love and to be loved. Real love is an emotion that intensifies and matures throughout a lifetime. It is the small, everyday acts of being together, sharing our lives and our true selves that makes love flourish. It is sharing, caring, and respecting one another with giving and taking while choosing to receive what is offered from moment to moment as a precious Gift being offered and not a right that can be demanded.  Selfless love, though, means rising above our own needs (to be loved and respected in return, to be happy in the moment) and sometimes has to make uncomfortable choices, lest it becomes dysfunctional and not true to the values love has to offer all concerned.

When Humans love selfishly, they keep love close to themselves in an effort to protect it. Selfish love is stingy and self-centered and it believes there is only enough of it to fill its own neediness. All too often we look at love selfishly, as something we want and need and deserve, without considering who we are being in the moment. Selfish love is conditional love through which one simply wants our needs to be met, and if the person chosen to love doesn't serve our needs, we reject that person and search elsewhere to fill a void that only selfless love can fill. Selfish love can breed more pain than pleasure for all concerned, until Selfless love is loved to life.

Humanity can love others for all sorts of reasons ... selfish and selfless, as we learn and evolve and love is matured and honed ... through the Spirit of Love as our Guide and Teacher. I do not think there is any condemnation in that necessary process. This is part of what it is to be an ever evolving Human BEing.  

Humans love others:

Because we can rest in a shared, imperfect love.

Because another loved us first, or because they love us and thus that makes us happy, so we choose to love them too in hopes of making them happy as well.

Because we look up to another, perhaps they make us feel respected, they encourage us to be successful, show us we are needed or wanted and deep within we want to find someone we can do the same for in return.

Because as we look up to them, we consider them the embodiment of what or who we aspire to Be ... we know their love returned will encourage us both to be and do our best.

Because we are like-minded; this is akin to loving what we love about our self and thus we find pleasure being with them and we know they find pleasure in return. We agree this is excellent breeding ground for healthy interdependent loving relationships.

Because we have been through much together and we can see continuing being loving, together, is beneficial.

Because of the memories we share and thus we cannot imagine life without them and are willing to overcome that which is destructive behavior for the sake of maturing our mutual love.

Because we are instrumental in raising them and want what is best for them in their present and future.

Because they are willing to make a sacrifice for the sake of our happiness and mutual love and we are more than willing to do the same.

Because they make us feel loved and lovable and acknowledge we do the same for them, such acknowledgement increases the intimacy of our love.

Because we feel validated in giving love, to do so makes the both of us happy.

Because another exhibits some rare, honorable quality that makes them a unique beautiful soul we want to explore and love more deeply.

Because they are nice to look at and we feel good knowing someone attractive likes us and wants to be our friend.

Because we are best friends, and we know we both have each other’s back and always will ... this kind of love gives us the pleasure of feeling secure.

Because they are gentle and kind and generous and deserve to be loved.

Because they are damaged and insecure and vulnerable and deserve or need our unconditional, nonjudgmental love.

Because they fill a void left by someone else - family members that have passed, past loves, friends no longer around and this gives us hope for a more positive future.

Because we were created with a need-desire to love and a need-desire to be loved in return ... that is what it is to be a Human, who is becoming at One with the Spirit of our Creator, is what is alive within me.

Again, it is our way of loving which is selfish or selfless ... genuine love, simply is and has unlimited possibilities and many more reasons for its existence ... and once it is acknowledged, life becomes far more interesting, enjoyable and loving.

As Humans come to know this experientially, a life of loving becomes more fulfilling... has been my observations and a part of my personal experience. I hope that becomes your personal experience again soon.’

Do you agree or disagree?  Let us talk... as usual, your comments are welcome, whether you agree or disagree, we each have a unique perspective it may be necessary for others to consider with us.
Excerpt from "Meditating with My Fingertips":
Meditations on the Gospel of God and Christ and the Kingdom of God
'The resurrected Spirit of Jesus the Christ (through His Disciples) throughout time invites everyone to have a living relationship with our Creator. The Spirit of our Father chose to manifest His Essence and Will to us through Jesus, confirming the fulfillment of a Prophetic Promise ... a redeemer Son born of Abba's Father's Spirit to be the second Adam ... a spiritual Mystery revealed, such can be spiritually discerned through studying the language of the Spirit.
According to Father's plan for Humanity, established before the Foundations of the world, Jesus was given birth to become the one who Redeems Humanity from Spiritual Death and its consequences. He is the firstborn from the Dead sent to proclaim the Good News of Reconciliation, another aspect of the Gospel of our Father; Gospel means Good News.
When we embrace the Truth Jesus reveals as our Own, we discover we have become Eternal Spiritual Beings who have entered into an Eternal Covenant our Father offers to everyone. We find ourselves becoming at One with our Father's heart, desiring to live in the Spirit and in Truth, while still in this vessel of flesh … desiring to love as our Father loves through us.
As we dwell with our Father day by day, the Spirit of our mind is renewed with Words of Life eternal that nourish our Soul and strengthen our Spirit. They transform and regenerate us beginning within our heart, a heart that is changed by our Father's unconditional love.
As we choose to walk in the Spirit listening for and communing with the Voice of our Abba Father within, we are led deeper into His Kingdom with fresh understanding, whereby the Secrets of God are experienced as our Present Truth. Day by day we are fed, line upon line, precept upon precept as old ways of thinking and Being fall away losing its negative influence over us.
As we are matured, His Peace, Joy, Righteousness (right ways of thinking and thus Being) becomes the fruit we-others feed upon as even more Fruits of the Spirit of God is developed in us through our choices; love, patience, kindness, faithfulness, tolerance, goodness, gentleness, self-control.
Those who hunger and thirst after the Truth of God, His Righteousness (Justice that conforms our hearts as a Gift of Grace) and Who we are or can be as His Legacy are fulfilled, overcome by His Spirit within. We become mature Sons and Daughters of the Most High … ‘Overcomers who receive the Blessings of God, beginning in our now’. Such a one is acknowledged as the True Church ... a living organic Being who is evolving as they are matured in the Spirit.
Some of us experience ourselves as a vital part of the Spiritual Body of Christ ... a Spiritual Son being matured as we are Discipled. Others also experience ourselves as an aspect of the Bride of Christ ... through a double portion Anointing. As the New Jerusalem, we are likened to a City set upon a Hill, shining forth the Light of God within, beckoning all to Enter into the Rest of God, to Abide in Christ, His Living Words and the Kingdom of Heaven now.
Such a One proclaims the Good News, Father's love cannot be earned, nor destroyed. We declare before the Foundations of the World a Divine Plan was established, it is unfolding, bringing about a New Heaven and a New Earth in Time as in Eternity, beginning within our heart and mind.
Does your Soul Hunger for more of the Bread of Life? Does your Spirit thirst for Living Waters that quench? If so, seek first to enter into the Kingdom of God in your now and all else will be added. Abide not with those who cannot enter in ... choose to Abide in Christ and His Living Words with those who have already entered. In the doing you will find rest deep within, you will find love deep within, you will find truth deep within, you will find the Holy Spirit leading you into all truth from deep within., as you are given eyes to see from our Father's Eternal Perspective.
The Highest Calling of God (who is the Spirit of Love):
"...this is eternal life: [it means] to know (to perceive, recognize, become acquainted with, and understand) You, the only true and real God, and [likewise] to know Him, Jesus [as the] Christ (the Anointed One, the Messiah), Whom You have sent." John 17:3
"He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.." 1 John 4:8
"By this shall all [men] know that you are My disciples, if you love one another [if you keep on showing love among yourselves]." John 13:35
"But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [[a]that can bring a charge]." Galatians 5:22
"I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing." John 15:5
"You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I have appointed you [I have planted you], that you might go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your fruit may be lasting [that it may remain, abide], so that whatever you ask the Father in My Name [as presenting all that I AM], He may give it to you." John 15:16
"These things I command you, that ye love one another." John 15:17
"My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in Me through their message, that all of them may be ONE, Father, just as You are in Me and I am in You. May they also be in Us so that the world may believe that You have sent Me. I have given them the glory that You gave Me, that they may be ONE as we are One — I in them and You in Me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that You sent Me and have LOVED them even as You have LOVED Me." John 17:20-23
“Righteous Father, though the world does not know You, I know You, and they know that You have sent Me. I have made You] known to them, and will continue to make You known in order that the LOVE You have for Me may be in them and that I Myself may be in them.” John 17:25-26
"Know ye not that ye are a Temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?" 1 Corinthians 3:16
"Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"For the Father Himself [tenderly] loves you because you have loved Me and have believed that I came out from the Father." John 16:27
The extinction of too many bees and other pollinators could have disastrous consequences for our food supply and there is some simple, loving things we can each do at home, to help stop that from continuing to happen. 
The easiest way is to begin by educating others and ourselves. Honey Bee Colony Collapse Disorder ... 57 different pesticides found in poisoned honeybees

One way we can do that is by asking ourselves some questions that might make us stop and think and make new choices, such as:

Why would 'I' really 'need' or want to use poisonous insecticides and weed killers, now that I know it is destroying living creatures who are important when it comes to the cycles of our Eco System and the well being of all of life?

Here are a few more questions that might make you stop and think ... Did you know Dandelions and Clover and some other so-called weeds and wild flowers are a Source of nutritious FREE food.
Did you know our Grandparents us to collect Herbs and Wildflowers for medicinal purposes?  They called it Wildcrafting. Big Pharma uses a lot of these resources too and they charge us a lot for the convenience because we've become dependent upon them, due to that knowledge being less common in our present Generation. As of late, people are buying Medicinal Herbs, and we can plant them in our own yards, not just for us but for the Pollinators.

Did you know when you use insecticides in your Home Garden, you also kill beneficial insects, pollinators who are needed to provide us food?

Did you know when you use herbicides, not only do you destroy potential nutritious, wild food, but you destroy the food our Pollinators need also?

Now that you know this, would you like to know of some simple suggestions as to what you can do to be a important part of changing the world into a better place, in your lifetime?
Obviously, for the most part, you can begin by choosing to no longer use Insecticides and Herbicides as your first option ... after you see this can work for you, you can challenge your Friends to be 'Insecticide and Herbicide free', with you by sharing what you've discovered on your new path! (share this blog too please)


If you have too many predatory insects eating up your veggies, a possible solution is, you could bring in additional Beneficial Insects like Lady Bugs, Praying Mantis and Mason Bees. You can plant Companion Plants nearby to draw them in. You can Plant more than you need for the sake of the local Wildlife and the Eco System, as well. Sometimes Humanity forgets we share this Planet with other Creatures.  

It is important to teach our children and friends to respect Bees and other Pollinators and encourage them not to be afraid of them. We can take them to a local Beekeeper as part of an outing this summer. Some of you may decide you can become a BeeKeeping Family, with your own Apiary having done so.

We can support our local Honey Bee Keepers. We need not limit ourselves to simply buying local Honey, (local helps with allergy’s best). Some Bee Keepers (and ‘want-to-be’ Bee Keepers … join a local Bee Keepers Association if you are a ‘want-to-be’) are in need of extra land for additional Hives. They will often share Honey with us in return for the use of a small portion of our property.

We can plant our Gardens with 'organic' heirloom plants that benefit them ... Bee Friendly Plants are important to have scattered about in every Community, (Bee's will travel a 10 mile radius per day), but they are important for other Pollinators as well. Attracting-pollinators, plants that encourage bees butterflies and birds to visit

Bees prefer flowers that are blue, purple or yellow. They love Clover and it enriches our soil and is an excellent ground cover. They enjoy buttercups too ... a field of buttercups is a remarkable sight, would you agree? I have fond memories of the joy buttercups brought us over the years, I bet you do too!

Pollinators also like Herbs, to include medicinal, such as Sage, Oregano, Lavender, Purple Cone Flower (echinacea,) Thyme, Yarrow, Hyssop, Bee Balm and Golden Rod. They also like Salvia, Alfalfa, Edible Sunflowers to name a few more. Yellow jackets, wasps and hornets aren’t bees and won’t be attracted by bee-friendly plants, btw.

A small Garden or Meadow of wild flowers is a lovely sight that draws in pollinators. 


Flowering Trees, especially Fruit Trees are an excellent choice. Pollinator - Plants - People, A Partnership for Life

Allow a few leafy vegetables in your home garden to "bolt," (go to seed) Seeding plants are a bee's best chance to stock up on food before winter comes. Plants will bolt in the late fall as well.  If you want to harvest some of your own seeds, there will usually be more than enough to share.


Create shallow ponds in your yards to supply Pollinators with water. They will also use a shallow bird bath as well.


Create a habitat for Bees, (besides the Hive Boxes for Honey Bees). Mason Bees are good to have around, so create a Do it yourself Insect Habitats from found material for them (and other Pollinators) so they do not bore into yours. 

Natural bees make use of many kinds of Shelter: abandoned animal burrows, dead trees and branches and underground nest tunnels, so keep that in mind when you are pruning or plowing your land for a Garden. If you have extra soil, (having brought in freshly composted), leaving a mound around near a water source as a potential nesting area for some natural bees, will bring you a good feeling.

Insect Hotels come in many sizes and varieties, depending upon who you want to house.


As a side note I'd like to end this Post with this little tidbit, which inspired me to post this today ... A few years back Organic Roof Top Gardens and Roof Top Bee Hives  on top of Commercial Buildings and High Rises began as a movement worldwide.

That movement has spread to Home Owners as Los Angeles plans to let homeowners keep BEES on their roofs 

Did you know Roof Top Bee Keeping was around back in 1918?  
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